My attitude toward the word “sober” is part of my deeper belief that we get our lives back when we stop drinking. Being sober is not a negative process, although at first it's hard work, it's positive. Negative thinking encourages a victim mentality, promotes a sense of hopelessness, and prevents you from achieving your potential. They discourage the growth mindset, which is a crucial part of overcoming the challenges faced in the first year of sobriety.
The book states that “sparkling emotional appeal is rarely enough. Things like staying sober for our children or staying sober to support our families aren't enough to keep us sober. Likewise, positive thinking won't do much to keep us sober if it's all we have to stop drinking and using drugs. Friends and family can't keep us sober.
It will be more difficult to live a sober life because someone else told you that you should or need to. It will be more difficult to live a sober life if your own mind thinks that you are missing something by being here.